Virginia, United States (Enmaeya News) — Aging brings changes to the body, mind, and relationships, many people are not ready for, experts say. Society’s focus on youth and “anti-aging” products often leaves older adults unprepared for the realities of getting older.

Erlene Rosowsky, a clinical psychologist who specializes in aging, says ageism reinforces the illusion that people can avoid aging. “There is a lot of ageism in society, which bolsters the illusion of control and avoiding it,” she says.

Rosowsky, 82, notes that aging affects health, mobility, cognitive abilities, and one’s sense of self. Retiring from a university teaching career, she continues to research and write, adapting to changes in her body and lifestyle.

Arielou Marcy, 86, of Lynchburg, Va., faces major life changes, including the loss of her husband of 62 years. She lives with one of her daughters, two dogs, and four cats, which helps keep her motivated. Marcy deals with scoliosis, altering her gait and causing pain, but she remains active with physical therapy and yoga, focusing on what she can do rather than what she has lost.

Rosowsky says adult children can help aging parents by listening, offering support without controlling decisions, and encouraging storytelling to maintain dignity. Children should help with health and diet but allow parents to retain autonomy.

Older adults sometimes resist pressure to make changes in their homes, such as decluttering cherished possessions. Marcy, for example, keeps items from her husband and family, saying, “Why should I get rid of all the things I love that I’ve had throughout my life?”

Experts say aging can be challenging but manageable when older adults focus on purpose, maintain social connections, and receive empathetic support from family.